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bringing our brilliance to the party

Last week, I had the great good fortune to luxuriate in the company of Dr. Linda Pucci and Sandy Rees.  Linda, Sandy and I gather every couple of weeks in search of our collective wisdom.  Primarily, the three of us focus on how to best share our unique talents and gifts with the world, a kind of mastermind group.

If you’ve been reading for a while, you know that I’m a big fan of retreat . . . personal retreat, spiritual retreat, even business retreat.  Last week, Sandy, Linda and I had a mastermind retreat.  In our shared company, I delighted in witnessing the brilliance of LIFE shine through in the laughter, the creativity and the nuts and bolts ideas that came out of our retreat.

We started with sharing the outcomes we were hoping for, a kind of clarifying of our intentions.  Then we each spent a couple of hours sharing where we were stuck and where we needed help.  In this sharing, we accessed the magnificent wisdom that comes when you pull together people who are willing to put themselves aside and generously give of themselves to serve another.

For me, I got crystal clear about what my next steps are in how to best serve others.  As you may remember, I’ve been looking for ways to offer my service to a broader group and keep my psychotherapy and coaching practice going, because I love that and it just happens to be the BEST job in the world for me.

No small thanks to those of you who graciously completed my survey (still open for those who want to add their 2 cents) and Linda and Sandy AND Shade (more on him later).  I’m clearer.  I’ve been keeping myself from moving forward with doing some recordings and offering more tele-classes because I don’t like writing sales copy.  Now, seeing that in print, I think that’s pretty ridiculous.  Do you agree?  Is there some way you’ve been keeping yourself stuck?  And, once stepping back half an inch from it can you see how taking that one little step might make this world an even better paradise as you bring YOUR brilliance more fully to the party?

Back to Shade.

After Linda, Sandy and I played in Linda’s glorious east Tennessee office, we went out to Linda’s barn where she garnered the support of her four legged friends to help us all access just a bit more wisdom…straight from the horses’ mouth.  Shade was my wisdom teacher.

Melanie & Shade

Melanie & Shade

In addition to being a coach and psychotherapist, Linda is a gifted Equine Assisted Learning Facilitator.  She led Sandy and I through a couple of exercises with the horses to help us learn a couple of more lessons about what else might be going on in our businesses.  From Shade I learned about the importance of being persistent and fully accessing my resources.  I also learned that I sometimes make things harder than they need to be.  Am I the only one who does this?  Can I hear an “Amen?”
So, here’s what I’m committing to in order to bring my brilliance to the party:
~ Regular business retreats for MY business (rather than just facilitating them for others).  Take note of the REGULAR aspect of this.  I’ve done    retreats for my business before, but in no routine way.
~ Persistance
~ I’ll ask myself if I’m fully accessing my resources.
~ I’ll work to stay attuned to how I can make things easier rather than harder :)
So, what about you?  How about if you bring your brilliance to the party?  There’s a power in each of us fully showing up for life.  There’s a power in our sharing wisdom.  There’s the power of ONE.
On that note, take a look at this…be patient and watch the whole video, I think you’ll be happy you did.

PS  I’ve tried and can’t seem to figure out how to correctly embed the video directly.  If anyone can help, do share!

breathe easy

image007 What if you really believed that everything is all right?

practice of the presence

It’s probably a little sacrilegious that I put myself (and you too) in the same realm as saints & sages.  Oh well.  Along with saints and sages, I think that we, too, can know and live in the Truth of the joyous declaration from the Koran, “God is the East and the West, and wherever ye turn, there is God’s face.”  Such a declaration demands that we expand our ideas of who or what God is.

In challenging my limiting beliefs about God, I find a Magnificence that cannot be captured in words…at least my words.  I understand the Truth of the Tao Te Ching teaching, “The Tao that can be spoken is not the true Tao.”  Yet, still I wander through this garden of words to play hide and seek with God.

In one moment, the devotional seeker in me listens for and attempts to follow the quiet impulses of  my heart that encourage me to see  the face of the Lord, where ever I turn, in what ever circumstance I find myself.  I seek and sometimes find the true contentment of the Presence of God in myself, in the person I’m with or even the clickety clacking of my fingers on the keyboard.  With or without devotion, it’s THAT that I seek, THAT single Consciousness that playfully hides in some infinite number of creative manifestations.

In this Game, I find the humble wisdom of Brother Lawrence to be a signpost guiding my Way.

In the early sixteen hundreds, a humble footman gazed at a simple tree, its outline stark against the winter sky.  The tree stood barren of leaves with only the promise of its summer bounty hidden within.  As Nicholas Herman of Lorraine lost himself in the contemplation of this simple tree, he found himself overcome and forever changed by Grace.  He was given a “high view of the providence and power of God.”

The sight of a dry, barren tree and the vision of its full beauty bursting forth in Spring was the catalyst of his conversion.  At the age of eighteen, he began his walk to God, throughout the rest of his life seeking only the Presence of God.  Soon following this vision, Nicholas Herman became a Carmelite monk and took the name Brother Lawrence.

Brother Lawrence was not a prolific writer, nor was he a scholar.  His was a simple Way.  His gift to us was his compassionate and concise wisdom collected in a slender book entitled, “The Practice of the Presence of God.”

Throughout the centuries his simple Way has attracted and consoled seekers from many traditions who aspire to know God.  Even today he continues to be an inspiring model for living in the awareness of the Presence of God.  He wrote, “I renounced for the love of Him everything that was not He, and I began to live as if there was none but He and I in the world.”

How completely simple, yet how completely profound was his unassuming wisdom.  Such is the way that he approached his life, from his humble work of fifty years in the monastery kitchen to his relationships with his contemporaries.  He walked through his days making room for the Presence of God in each unfolding moment.

Brother Lawrence

He performed all the ordinary tasks of his daily life in the continual remembrance of the Presence of God, always “pleasing myself by doing things to please God.”  As he cooked, he cooked with an awareness that he was cooking for the Lord.  As he washed dishes, he washed dishes with the awareness that he was washing dishes for God.  As he ate, he ate with the awareness that it was God that he was feeding.

Although he lived a seemingly uncomplicated life in a remote monastery, he wrote with clarity and honesty of his sufferings and failings.  With his own body being “lame” and the difficulties accompanying such a handicap, not to mention the trials of daily life, he encouraged aspirants to persevere in the discipline of seeking out the Presence of God.

He wrote, “Think often on God, by day, by night, in your business, and even in your diversions.  Lift up your heart to Him, sometimes even at your meals, and when you are in company . . . It is not necessary for being with God to be always at church.  We may make an oratory of our heart.”

What an inspired understanding, in continually making room for the Presence of God in the present moment, I can make a temple, a house of worship, in my own heart!   The power of such simple practices; continually making room for the Presence of God in all things, all activities, all people, all circumstances, and doing all things for the love of God filled Brother Lawrence with perfect faith and unwavering devotion to God.

Free from the distractions of the world that might lead him astray in his love of the Presence of God, he revealed a clear and simple path through the maze of daily life.  Although I live the life of a householder, rather than a monk, I can still learn from his sublime example and perhaps gradually free myself from the distractions that lead me away from recognizing and welcoming the all-pervasive Presence in ordinary circumstances.

In welcoming this Presence in each moment, in making room for this Presence in each moment, I experience a stream of Love flowing steadily from my heart.  It is that same Love that is the Presence.  What a mysterious paradox is this play!  Looking into the lives of great beings such as Brother Lawrence, I stumble across practices and wisdom that lead me to the experience of the all-pervasive Presence of God.