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becoming a life artist

Thich Nhat Hanh a contemporary Buddhist monk, writes with great elegance of the joy to be found in bringing our awareness to the present moment.  He encourages us to be so completely immersed in the task at hand that it becomes to us the most important thing in our life.

In The Miracle of Mindfulness, he writes, “While washing the dishes, you might be thinking about the tea afterwards, and so try to get them out of the way as quickly as possible in order to sit and drink tea.  But that means that you are incapable of living during the time you are washing the dishes.  When you are washing the dishes, washing the dishes must be the most important thing in your life.  Just as when you’re drinking tea, drinking tea must be the most important thing in your life.”

When I look into the lives of spiritually awake people across spiritual traditions, there seems to be a common thread.  Each lived or lives deliberately with an appreciation of the uniqueness of each moment, each circumstance, each person.

Each of us can let each moment become a moment of deliberate, conscious living.  Each of us can learn, with practice, patience, and perseverance, to greet the Presence of God, of Consciousness, of Spirit, of Shakti and welcome that formless Presence regardless of the form.  Each of us can let each moment’s experience become a way of seeking out God’s Presence and increasing our love for that Presence.

Living in such a way, we become the artists of our own life.  We can sculpt, paint, and dance our way through each day.  We need only to pick up and use the tools at our disposal and one of these tools is the practice of the present moment.

Of course, we cannot shape each circumstances of our lives, though there is debate about that.  We can, however, completely shape our response to Life circumstances and embrace the Presence in each unfolding moment.  With Grace, we step aside from the thoughts that lead us to believe Grace is somewhere other than the present.

This may seem obvious, ridiculous or perhaps overwhelming.  Yet, in practice it becomes sublime and poetic.  It may be that searching out the sacred in each day, looking for holiness in a single moment over the course of a single day feels more attainable than the seemingly monumental task of recognizing the sacredness of each and every moment.

However you approach such a practice, the practice is one of slowing down for the moment, by doing one thing at a time.  A neighbor of mine once summed this up for me with beautiful simplicity, “when walking, walk.”

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little pockets of beauty

Photo courtesy of a friend

I really appreciate a beautiful garden.  I love checking out books on gardening from the library and reading them on my couch, while my yard goes neglected.  As an army brat, I never learned and really don’t know the first thing about where you even start when you want to create beauty in the yard.

That’s all changing.  In fact, I now understand that it’s not about creating beauty, it’s about revealing the beauty that’s already there.  I owe this new found wisdom to, Shar, my gardening mentor/tutor/teacher.

I’ve long wanted to play with someone outside, someone who could teach me, but wasn’t really uptight about how things should be.  How do you find someone like that?  How does a grown woman ask another grown up, “Wanna come over and play in my yard?”

That’s just what I did.  And, Shar said, “yes.”

One of the things I’ve learned from her so far is how easy it is to create little pockets of beauty by “eliminating the negative.”  For example, I live in the woods, lots of shade and lots of tree debris.  Recently, Shar and I were playing in the yard and she was delighted to find a stump that I’d thought was an unsightly mess.  After cleaning away the debris in the stump, we filled it with some dirt, added some moss from another part of the yard, a few rocks and VOILA!  A little pocket of beauty.

Where are there hidden pockets of beauty in your life?  What might you eliminate to add to the beauty of your life?  Perhaps there are old habits, ways of being or thinking that you could eliminate.  Perhaps there are virtues you could cultivate.  Or maybe a little pocket of beauty could be revealed by your cleaning and rearranging a shelf or a cabinet or your state of mind.

Post a comment and share your little pockets of insight and beauty on my blog.

living in a 51 year old body

I’m living in a body that is 51.5 years old.  So far, it’s taken me on a quite a ride.  Or maybe the other way around, I’ve taken it on a quite a ride.  Either way, I’m grateful.  I’ve taken it on untold adventures and it’s held up with remarkable grace and good will…until recently.


I'm the girl in the back



When I was in my twenties, I spent several summers as a guide on the Colorado River in southern Utah.  On one of those trips, I injured my back.  Big time pain.  Flash forward a couple of decades and that old injury is showing up with a vengeance.

For the last couple of years, I’ve been seeing chiropractors, physical therapists, massage therapists, orthopedic doctors…and on and on, as I attempt to find relief.  Relief is slow in coming, but coming it is.

At first I felt a bit betrayed by my body, like it had somehow let me down and I could no longer trust it.  Ever so slowly, I realized that perhaps I have betrayed my body by not taking better care of it.  Heck, there’ve been times when I took better care of my car than I did my body.

Because I have a strong preference for my body to last a good long time in good health, I needed to make some changes.  So I did.  These days, I take good care of my body and have a good team to support me — physical therapist, massage therapist, svaroopa yoga teacher, and ME.  I stretch almost every day, walk several times a week and aim to provide my body with good fuel.  There’s more, but those are the basics.

I can almost hear my mother-in-law teasing me and saying “Well pin a rose on your nose.” 8-)

Nonetheless, the changes have made my life better, I’m more mindful of and more loving towards my body.  It’s rare that I take it for granted.

How about you?  Are you taking better care of your car than you do your body?

What small change could you make this week to take even better care of your body?

P.S.  One of the things I did that I think made a huge difference in how I feel towards my body was using ZPoint to help me clear out the negative feelings I had towards my body and motivate me to exercise.  If this sound interesting to you, check out the recording I made to lead you through the same process I used, “Say Yes to Better Health.” You can find it in my shop.