The Power of Humility
“There is no limit to what a man can do so long as he does not care a straw who gets the credit for it.” Charles Edward Montague Humility is a quality I admire in other people. It’s acurious quirk of humanity that we think being humble means pretending that we are not. For true humility is grounded in a deep sense of our own self worth, a self worth based not on someone else’s valuation of our qualities or skills, but based upon our felt sense knowledge of our Essence. Like discipline, humility may not seem as readily accessible...
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When I was old enough to realize that my family of origin was slightly more damaged than was functional I made a vow to myself. I swore that I would be the last person in our genetic line to deal with life the way my parents and the generations before them had. And I have spent the better part of the last 15 years (the vow came well before my ability to do anything about it) pursuing ways to heal. At first, it was a lot of sit down and talk therapy. It was validating and for the longest time that may have been the only thing to which I could...
read moreNever Give Up
Goal setting is huge in our culture. We are a future and accomplishment oriented society and many of us live only to see the next day’s task completed. But what happens when something gets in the way? How do you react when an obstacle is placed in your path to your goal? Do you throw up your hands? Wait? Study? Laugh? Give up completely? Many of us want to give up because we have misread what an obstacle actually is. Maybe we believe it is trying to tell us that the goal is not worthwhile or that we are fundamentally lacking what we need to...
read moreStay Curious
We human beings are dynamic creatures and our relationships are vibrant expressions of that dynamism. But problems can often arise, especially in long term relationships, when we fall into the habit of thinking we know – thinking we know what our partner thinks, will say, or will do in a given situation. We turn our mates and even ourselves into static, one-dimensional images instead of allowing the full range of our potential to be expressed in each moment. It’s easy, in our current culture especially, to fall into this trap of...
read moreLiving from Essence
The New Year brings with it expectations of resolutions; often in the form of breaking old habits and forming new ones. Most of us want to live better lives, whatever that may mean. For me, a couple of things come to mind. One is my commitment to write again after a hiatus of a couple of months. Part of this hiatus has been driven by my enthusiasm for a new project I’ve been on which I’ve been working. If you’ve been reading a while, you might remember that I’ve been studying and practicing Spiritual Technology, the work of Zivorad...
read moreThe One Desire
The desire to know and recognize God, Truth, to experience that sweet space of Oneness is thought by some philosophers to be the root of all desire, the one desire. It may be that the desire disguises itself, showing up as a wish for a new car, or a particular job. Perhaps it shows up as some wanting for a girlfriend, a boyfriend, a relationship. However it comes to us, there is desire. We, in our ignorance, sometimes think that desire itself will cease when we obtain the object of our wanting. Yet, the moment we fulfill one desire,...
read moreRestoring Your State
Your state of being is at the heart of how you experience yourself in life. It informs your perspective and your choices. It is your responsibility to protect and restore your state. Yet, when your state is jangled by the challenges of life, you get thrown into a variety of very human reactions — anger, sad, frustrated, scared or even wild, over the moon joy. These reactions can be like a filter for a camera lens that distorts the perspective a bit. You cannot get a clear read on a situation through a distorted lens. These...
read morePoint of View
Have you ever noticed that when you are trying to make a decision and if you try to make that decision based solely on what you think someone else thinks you kind of throw yourself off? That’s not to say that considering other points of view is a bad thing. In fact, I think it would serve us all to be able to slide into another point of view, and allow other points of view to impact us. Nonetheless, each of us has a point of view. Reflecting on “what is my point of view?” can open up a world of creativity and...
read moreSoftening into Remembrance
I was on the phone with a client. I heard her gasp and say, “they’re telling me a plane just hit one of the towers of the World Trade Center.” I remember we both carried on for another minute or so, a little in shock. How do you actually take in information like that? After a minute or so, she said they were evacuating her building and she had to go. At the time she worked in a multistory government building in Detroit and I was in my cozy east Tennessee home. Ever so gradually, it dawned on me that our country...
read moreBegin With the End In Mind
I am a big believer in mentors. Mentors have enriched my life throughout my life. My first mentor was Dick Olney, the father of Self Acceptance Training. More recently, I’ve been studying with Zivorad Slavinski, the founder of Spiritual Technology. Both Dick and Zivorad have deeply influenced me both personally and professionally. More recently, I’ve found business mentors – two incredible women who are teaching me how to share what I have to share. As a social worker, I’ve been challenged to find teachers...
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