tips for disagreeing respectfully

Posted by on Mar 21, 2011 in cultivating peace, relationships, yoga of relationship ~ others | 0 comments These last couple of weeks, I’ve been hearing a theme in my work with people – “How do I disagree with my partner in a respectful way?”  A young couple I’m seeing in my practice have been going around with this one for a while.  I certainly remember being in the first years of my relationship with husband, David (going on thirty years now).  We sure have bumped up...
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understanding anger

Posted by on Feb 28, 2011 in relationships, Uncategorized, yoga of relationship ~ others | 5 comments Anger generally has an outward directed energy.  Someone in your life does something that does not meet your expectations or standards and you get mad.  Or they don’t do something they said they would do and you get mad.  Or they fail you or someone you care about and you get mad. Often this “mad” is also accompanied by a kind of righteous indignation.  It’s that...
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the wisdom of anger

Posted by on Jan 27, 2011 in relationships | 2 comments One of my precious clients told me a heartbreaking story about being excluded from family gatherings during the holidays.  (Truth told, I think all of my clients are precious.  They trust me with their heart, their spirit, their dreams.  They invite me into the intricate intimacies of their lives, understanding and trusting that I can help them re-establish themselves in a steady state of...
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how long do you want to feel bad?

Posted by on Jul 22, 2009 in cultivating peace, this i believe | 2 comments A client recently shared that she and her husband had a bit of a row.  And, although she now has a plethora of effective tools at her fingertips to clear and release negative feelings, she just wanted to feel bad for a while.  So she gave herself 5 minutes, “I’m going to be as mad as I want to be for 5 minutes and then I’ll let it go!” Now, there’s a couple of...
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