Stay Curious

Posted by on Jan 13, 2012 in Uncategorized | 0 comments We human beings are dynamic creatures and our relationships are vibrant expressions of that dynamism. But problems can often arise, especially in long term relationships, when we fall into the habit of thinking we know – thinking we know what our partner thinks, will say, or will do in a given situation. We turn our mates and even ourselves into static, one-dimensional images instead of...
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Point of View

Posted by on Sep 22, 2011 in mindfulness, power of now, yoga of relationship ~ life, yoga of relationship ~ others | 3 comments Have you ever noticed that when you are trying to make a decision and if you try to make that decision based solely on what you think someone else thinks you kind of throw yourself off?  That’s not to say that considering other points of view is a bad thing.  In fact, I think it would serve us all to be able to slide into another point of view, and allow other points of view to impact...
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tips for disagreeing respectfully

Posted by on Mar 21, 2011 in cultivating peace, relationships, yoga of relationship ~ others | 0 comments These last couple of weeks, I’ve been hearing a theme in my work with people – “How do I disagree with my partner in a respectful way?”  A young couple I’m seeing in my practice have been going around with this one for a while.  I certainly remember being in the first years of my relationship with husband, David (going on thirty years now).  We sure have bumped up...
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understanding anger

Posted by on Feb 28, 2011 in relationships, Uncategorized, yoga of relationship ~ others | 5 comments Anger generally has an outward directed energy.  Someone in your life does something that does not meet your expectations or standards and you get mad.  Or they don’t do something they said they would do and you get mad.  Or they fail you or someone you care about and you get mad. Often this “mad” is also accompanied by a kind of righteous indignation.  It’s that...
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what me worry?

Posted by on Feb 21, 2011 in Uncategorized, yoga of relationship ~ others | 0 comments I’m not one to worry much about what other people think.  Nonetheless, a week or so ago I found myself feeling unsettled.  At first I could not figure out what had me feeling unsettled.  After a little intrapsychic digging around, I found the culprit.  I felt off kilter because of a mistake I made and I didn’t know the direct impact my mistake had on someone I care about, a...
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