Most people understand that yoga is about releasing tensions, building strength, and increasing flexibility.  Ultimately, however, yoga is about union, union with God, Spirit, the Great Mystery, the Unified Field of Consciousness.  The physical yoga practices definitely help yoga students release tensions.  Yet yoga can become even more powerful when you take it off the mat and into your life and into your relationships.

Our lives take place in the context of relationships.  You have relationships with yourself, with others and with LIFE itself.  Relationships can be like a yoga mat that is slung over your shoulders in every moment of life.  It’s so ever-present, you might not even be aware of the impact of your relationships on your overall sense of well-being. Our relationships both define and reflect who we are and where we are stuck. From my perspective, relationships might just be one of the most perfect practice spaces for yoga.

Consider for a moment that if what most sacred texts from the Bible to the Bhagavad Gita say is true, that the kingdom of God is within, that God dwells within you as you, well, then take a look in the mirror.  Look at the person sitting across from you.  Can you see God peeking out?

For most of us, we have to practice a little before we can truly say that we can see the Great Mystery of Divinity peeking out at us through our own eyes or the eyes of another.   Nonetheless, there are tools, processes and resources to help you cultivate this ability.   I am coming to understand that using these resources regularly can help you begin to experience yourself and others without the tension of expectations of who you and they should be.  As you attune yourself to this experience, it begins to feel like sympathetic vibration, it’s easier and easier to find, then relationships – with yourself, others and LIFE – feel more easeful.

A feeling of easy calm, lightheartedness, and friendly attitude can be a kind of reference point, an indicator of the level of the amount of tension held in a relationship.  If there is tension, there are many ways to release the tension and return to a steady, balanced state.  In this way, peace and steadiness become a reference point.  Peace becomes the vibration to which you attune yourself.  As you learn to release tensions in the heart, you become a mountain of peace and steadiness.

If you find that the tension in your relationship with yourself or others is not responding to your practices, it’s not fully releasing on its own, that’s where the support of a skilled therapist or coach can help.  Your part is to show up and receive the support that’s available.  Just as you wouldn’t try to do some of the harder yoga poses without the support of a skilled teacher, there are aspects of tension that call for skilled support so that you can restore yourself to that sweet sense of peace – Union.

In my work, I aim to help people learn to use their relationships wisely.  My clients learn to use their relationships for spiritual evolution.  As you release more and more tension, as you build skills that support the development of better interpersonal relationships, you naturally increase your flexibility and return to peace.

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